刮痧

       电影《刮痧》可谓是一段由刮痧引发的虐童事件纠纷。因为刮痧所导致的背部伤痕引起美国医院对一个五岁的小男孩丹丹的生活产生关注，以此开始怀疑其父亲是否对其有虐待倾向，而导致原本幸福的一家四口骤然分离。在中国观众看来，这场发生在美国华人身上的纠纷实在是荒谬，后续的一些列措施和争辩都是多余。但为何一个出于爱而做出的刮痧行为会引起如此大的纷争？影片以此为契机，试图为我们展示生活中不可避免的中西方文化冲突。
     影片中的爷爷形象正好是中国普通大众的代表，他的一言一行都体现着中国传统文化习俗和普通群众的生活习惯。影片矛盾在爷爷对孙子的一次刮痧中开始，也在爷孙二人分离时父子两人逃跑中走向高潮。诚如电影中的一句台词“我在中国也是一个高级知识分子，但来了美国，我却是又聋又哑，只剩一双眼睛，还能四处看看”，诚恳真挚，一语中的，这正好道出了无数初来美国的中国老年人的心声：茫然，不适应，找不到共同语言，缺少一个说说话的朋友。这种格格不入首先来自于语言的障碍，当一个活了六七十岁的人什么话也说不出什么话也听不懂时，不只是交流上的无助，更是内心的一种彷徨。当孙子流利地用中文说出“筷子”时，看得出老人的开心，这应该就是一种说着中国话的轻松吧。由于生活坏境的改变而导致的身边没有熟悉的朋友也是一种不可避免的失落。公共场合在众多说着英文的外国人之间穿梭本就不是件让人兴奋的事，恰在这不兴奋之际遇见一位多年未见的中国老乡却实在是一件让人振奋的事。本以为独在异乡的现状出现了一丝曙光，朋友心脏病发骤然离世的苦痛却意外降临，伤心之余影片的矛盾冲突也拉开帷幕：那一夜许大同独留儿子一人在家引起的事端足以另这个家庭崩溃。老友已逝，好心办了坏事，当这种由文化差异导致的冲突上升到影响孙子和儿子时，老人的回国也许是最好的选择。虽要面对一个人的生活，但在美国有家人相伴仍少不了孤苦，回家才能算是真正释放自己。因为那有一片生他养他的土地，更有一群跟他志同道合的朋友。做人要有出息，逃避只是逞一时之快，机场分别时老人骂醒儿子的那一番话也让这个人物形象更加饱满。做父母的哪个不希望儿孙幸福，他们的安康才是父母最大的幸福。
    听证会上原被告双方的争论正是中西文化冲突的最好体现。在第一场听证会上，许大同不顾好友律师的劝说以其是他最好的朋友兼老板为由执意邀请一个不懂家庭法的律师来为自己辩护，这在其美国朋友眼中本就不是明智的选择。许大同以为的胜利在对方提供的事实证据面前完全苍白无力，当刮痧导致的背部伤痕成为指控其虐待儿子的证据时，尽管他再怎么费力解释刮痧是中国的合法医疗方法，但在美国这种行为却是非法和不被理解的。在没有一个专业的中西医学家来正确解释刮痧的原理之前，存在于事实至上的可见伤痕就是最有效的控诉。为何刮痧的是别人而许大同却一定承认是自己，甚至不许妻子说出事实，影片给了我们这样的解答：因为他是中国人。在中国人的道德观和价值观里，百善孝为先，儿子为维护父亲说一些善意的谎言是最天经地义不过的了。
    由于第一场听证会上对方律师未在之前提供证据副本，加上本方律师受委托的特殊化，因此拉开第二场听证会的高潮。从官方对待此次事件的态度可看出美国司法制度的优越性和对程序正当的重视度，这也直接反映出中西法治文化的差异。“用证据说话”是听证会的宗旨，而这场听证会上出现的多个人证物证恰好是对中西方文化冲突的最好诠释。第一，公寓门卫提供的许大同夜晚独留孩子一人在家的证词。在中国文化里这完全属于每个家庭的内部管理事宜，不涉及他人和官方的利益，更谈不上司法程序的介入；但在美国，不论在情理层面上是出于什么可被宽宥的理由，也无法改变其恶劣的性质。第二，医院医生提供的许大同在妻子分娩当日未及时出现的证词。同样的道理，一个在中国被认为再正常不过的行为在美国却成为对方控诉许大同不爱自己孩子的理由，甚至以“保大人不保小孩”的正常选择怀疑一个父亲对儿子降临的期盼。第三，许大同朋友提供的他在公共场合动手打儿子的证词。俩小孩打架，美国家长会认为小孩打架实属正常，父母可以教育但却谈不上人前动手。而中国父母总会不分对错的责备自己的孩子，就像影片中的许大同所言：他打孩子是为了在公众场合给对方父母留面子。就是这样的面子文化在其朋友眼中却是不可理喻的中国式逻辑。第四，由许大同开发的游戏和《西游记》引起的对其道德观的怀疑。对方律师对孙悟空的亵渎和游戏英雄的暴力批判直接导致了许大同听证会上的暴跳如雷，不只在他眼中，在大多数中国人眼中，孙悟空和其他的民族英雄一样，代表的是中国文化的正义和顽强的力量。中国人喜欢把传统文化中的英雄人物画面化，应用于各个领域以传播这种英雄气节，这种对于文化的传承在美国民众看来却是对暴力的宣传，影片中的大众游行足以说明这点。从许大同给儿子将孙悟空的故事，到儿子时时抱着的猴子布偶，一直到最后的圣诞节礼物，影片的这一设置无疑不是许大同这类美国华人对中国文化的信仰和其道德观和价值观的体现。一切以“证据说话”开始，也以“证据不足”无法证明刮痧的合法结束，最后丹丹由儿童福利局监护的决定也是中西文化冲突得不到调节的必然结果。
    单就影片的艺术性质而言，这不失为一部好电影。“父亲爱儿子，天经地义，还用得着找证据，发表声明吗？”可是一段感人肺腑的自述在美国还是抵不过四个字“证据说话”。一场由刮痧引起的纠纷，导致一个美国华人家庭的悲剧：夫妻辞职分居、父亲回国、儿子被迫分离，也是这场纷争展现了美国华人的生活背景和中美文化冲突。但在不断地冲突矛盾中，爱也是永恒的主题。爷爷对孙子的爱，妻子对丈夫的爱，父母对儿子的爱，尽管无声无息，却也感人不已。就像中国人喜欢大团圆，影片也不置可否地在最后以爱收尾。在圣诞夜这样欢快的日子，父亲给了儿子一个回家的承诺。所以即使被打劫，被拒之门外，却也用爱的力量攀上了一个难以超越的高度，最后一家三口抱头痛哭的欢乐无疑是圣诞夜最美的礼物。影片最后丹丹自述：中国、长城、黄河、长江，虽生在美国，但我却喜欢他们跟我说中国的故事。对于中西方文化冲突，我们值得反思，也值得更多的文化交流与合作。

       这学期观看了同学推荐的电影《刮痧》，在影片的最后听见丹尼斯可爱稚嫩的声音，他在随着父母的教授念着：“中国、北京、长城……”我顿时百感交集，是喜悦，是愤慨，还是无奈？不知道该用怎样的语言来表达看完这部电影后的感受。我认为，《刮痧》是一部非常优秀的电影作品，适合不同文化程度的观众观看，具有诸多的成功之处。影片中的很多细节都给我留下了十分深刻的印象，因此想在这里跟大家分享一下。
    电影《刮痧》是一部反映中美文化冲突的影片，故事发生在美国中部密西西比河畔的城市圣路易斯。来美已经八年的许大同，事业有成家庭幸福，他把在北京生活的老父亲接到美国同住。一天，五岁的儿子丹尼斯闹肚子发烧，他的爷爷由于刚从北京到美国，不懂得药品上的英文说明，便用中国民间流传已久的刮痧疗法给丹尼斯治病，没想到这竟成了丹尼斯一次意外事故后许大同虐待孩子的证据。在法庭上，面对对刮痧这一传统中医疗法一无所知的美国法官，面对一个又一个意想不到的证人和证词，许大同有口难辩。法庭宣布剥夺许大同的监护权，不准他与儿子见面。一连串的矛盾冲突更是接踵而来，一个原来幸福美好的家庭就这样转眼间变得支离破碎……
    电影中的很多细节是值得咀嚼和深思的。一开始，许大同就说：“我爱美国！这里是我的家！”八年的美国生活已经让他有自信说自己是美国人，并且和其他美国人一样自豪地称爱国。但无论他的英文说的如何字正腔圆，心里对美国梦、美国生活有多么的热爱和眷恋，他骨子里的中国传统文化所根植的意识形态和思维方式却怎么也改变不了，这使得他在官司中处处碰壁。在为他举办的颁奖仪式上，丹尼斯和朋友的儿子打架，他会为给朋友面子而当众体罚自己的孩子，并坚称“打是疼骂是爱”，老爷子指出他这是“当面教子背后教妻呀”。后来，因为刮痧的事情他被指控“虐待儿子”，听证会上对方律师请来他那位上司证明他是否真的动手打过儿子，这位上司不敢对法官撒谎只能回答“yes”，许大同据此认为上司出卖了他而提出辞职，上司认为他所谓的因为尊重上司而打自己的儿子是不可理喻的“中国逻辑”时，许大同用汉语脱口而出“道不同不相与谋”。听证会上对方请的另一个证人是当年给他儿子接产的护士，这位护士指出他在危急时刻曾经说过“保大人不管小孩”，他又一次用汉语脱口而出“留得青山在，不怕没柴烧”，可见他在说出满口纯正英语的时候，骨子里根深蒂固的还是“中国式”思维。也许这就是中国美籍华人（或称移民）的生存状态：已经脱离了生长自己身体和灵魂的祖国，飘洋过海努力奋斗，但要最终融入这个文化、政治、意识形态完全不同的社会却又是那么困难。以至于在美国，他们好像是“东方人”，虽有绿卡但仍与美国普通民众格格不入，黑头发、黄皮肤是他们的一个“异类”标签；而和中国人比起来，他们又是不同的，他们在家里也要说一口纯正的英语，他们口口声声说自己爱美国，他们努力退去身上的中国印。同时，美国社会也是矛盾的对待着他们的，它接受他们作为它的子民，作为国家的成员，但在社会实际生活中却无处不存在着对东方人、黄种人（矛头指向的就是华裔）却充满了歧视、轻蔑和误解。最可怕的是，当这种误解、歧视和轻蔑和美国号称“民主、法制、科学”的政治、法律结合起来，就会产生如电影《刮痧》中一样看似闹剧，却让人看得轻松不起来的事情。
    美国人不了解中国的刮痧，法律上也不承认其合法性，许大同在听证会上很激动地讲着“人体的七经八脉像无数小溪流向江河又奔向大海，气发自丹田又回到丹田……”，没有一个法官或是律师能够听懂，他们要求找医学权威来证明，可是这样的权威在美国根本就没有，于是案情的发展越来越让人揪心甚至愤慨：儿子丹尼斯只能被放在福利院，和被父母抛弃的孩子生活在一起，以至于他认为父母是要抛弃自己；许大同这边的辩护却一次次失利……从《刮痧》中，我们看美国的法制，会发现一个很奇怪的现象：在这个社会政治和法律系统里，每一个人都在努力维护这个系统的健康、透明而民主的运转，因此会有揭竿而起报警的医生和护士，有为孩子的健康和权利而舌战不休的律师，有以说实话为自己责任的证人；但当遇到了他们所不理解或不了解的事情的时候，当另一个遥远国度的传统文化和他们的common sense产生冲突的时候，这种西方社会科学、严谨、民主的法律却成为他们固守自己偏执的一种武器，就如那个律师在法庭上故意惹怒许大同、用刻意曲解《西游记》的手段误导法官以达到自己赢得官司的目的。
    影片在后半部分有不少感人的镜头，老爷子找到许大同的朋友——一个做版权辩护的律师约翰，连比划带画图告诉他不是许大同给丹尼尔刮的痧，而是他刮的。约翰问许大同的妻子——蒋雯丽扮演的简宁：“为什么他在法庭上要说是他做的？”简宁回答：“因为他是中国人。”这真是一个意味深长的答案！大同和他的父亲、大同和他的儿子、老爷子和孙子之间发生的故事，皆因为他们是中国人，在中国司空见惯的事情与道理，到了美国却说不清楚了，一个深爱儿子的父亲被指控“虐待孩子”，却没有办法证明自己的无辜。
    故事的转折是从律师约翰这里开始的。约翰自己找了一个中医去体验刮痧，这位中医一边用英语给他介绍刮痧的原理，一边在他后背上刮出了深深地痧痕，然后让他用镜子看自己的后背，问他是否感觉这是“虐待”，约翰终于明白了一切。圣诞节的夜晚，约翰去找原告方，告诉对方他有一个“两千年的理由”。而另一边，大同和妻子协商了分居，这样儿子好歹可以和妈妈在一起，而爸爸则不允许靠近。圣诞节的夜晚，这位痴情的父亲因为被保安拒绝回到自己家里而选择了爬窗户，他扮演成圣诞老人从一层爬到了自家九层的窗户上，整个过程有惊无险，一家人终于团聚，约翰和原本起诉他们的劳瑞娜一起来告诉他们：法官已经撤回了禁令。” 最终，西方的法制和东方的传统在经历了苦难和艰苦的磨合后达到了一种“和解”和“融合”，孩子回到了父母的身边，妻子和丈夫也不再需要痛苦的分离。
    这真的是一部优秀的电影，不同文化之间的差异与冲突是主题，表达了作为移民的中国人在一个民主、法制但又充满对别国文化、尤其是中国传统文化误解的美国如何生存，如何融入美国的社会和政治生活，天生的不适应和排异性又让这种融合变得异常困难。但故事的结局是好的，我想，这个结局除了安慰台下心里早就为许大同遭遇感慨的观众们之外，更多的是想重复一个被外交家、政治家们重复了千万遍的真理：“无论是怎样的文化沟壑，只要相互交流就能达到谅解。”
    《刮痧》中的刮痧，刮在孩子身上，刮在美国的法制身上，刮在美籍华人的心上，也刮在了我们每一位观众的心上。也许刮后印记难看，但温热微暖的感觉，却总是好的。“人之初，性本善”，正是因为人性中有共通之处，异质文化才有了从冲突到融合的可能。融合来源于真心的交流，希望在不久的将来，一个“大同”的世界真的会出现在我们面前！

   When a member of one culture produces a message for consumption by a member of another culture, intercultural communication occurs, which is a kind of communication between people whose cultural perceptions and symbol systems are distinctive enough to alter the communication event. People are alike and different. We carry our culture with us wherever we go, and it influences how we respond to the people we meet.
   The leading man in the movie Gua Sha Treatment has been in America for eight years as a new immigrant. At the beginning of this movie, the man, Datong addressed a speech in American way to show his love to America and American dream. It seemed that he has gained great success in the American mainstream society. Yet it was just an exaggeration of his success when used to make the comparison with the ensuing events.
   Datong and his wife were born and raised in China, while their son was a Chinese American. They taught their son in American way and spoke English all the time. In the celebration, we can find Datong was praised and encouraged by his boss, who can be taken as a representative of the mainstream business. At the party, because of the quarrel between the two children, the son, Dennis was beaten by his father, which is just a very common action in Chinese culture. The grandfather of Dennis also admitted the way of education. Because the other boy is the son of his boss, Datong gave his son a lesson to show his respect to the boss, who can not understand it at all. The boss was shocked and accepted it temporarily. In American culture, individualism is the key point of American cultural pattern, even between the father and the son. But in Chinese cultural pattern, fathers have the right or responsibility to educate the sons, no matter in a legal way or his personal way. We tend to take it as family privacy, instead of family violence or child abuse. In traditional Chinese culture, family conflict is often solved between family members and it’s a shame to spread family conflict outside of the house, while in America, the law and regulations make the difference.
   There was a very plain role in this movie, Lao Huo, the man who acted terra-cotta warrior, which was a loser in pursuing American dream compared with Datong. There were only the daily life and death of Lao Huo in this movie, which reflected the pursuit and struggling of an ordinary person in America. The death of him made the father of Datong think a lot, which was a clue to tell us the old man will return to China finally. According to the two different results of pursuing American dream, two different result of cultural conflict revealed.
   After the Gua Sha treatment rendered by the grandfather, Datong and his wife accepted it because of their Chinese culture background and the previous experience. It’s natural for the couple to keep the accident of child abuse secret to their father. And Datong confessed it was he who gave the treatment to the child, although his wife showed a little reluctance and hesitance. Actually his father gave the Gua Sha treatment to the son. There was an obvious culture difference in the episode. Chinese people behave on the basis of experience, while American act with the reference to the specific evidence. It’s praiseworthy for Datong to be a scapegoat for his father. In Chinese traditional culture, the law is important but sometimes affection counts. It’s dutiful and responsible to reduce the pains of parents both in China and America. If Datong admitted his father gave the treatment to the child and his to father will be accused by the court. Although it’s lawful, it’s unfilial in Chinese culture, which is an unforgivable fault.
Chinese view on interpersonal relationship network has been illustrated richly in this movie. When Datong needed a lawyer to help him, he sought help of his friend, who is actually not a lawyer of family law, but copyright law. Because of the lack of legal knowledge and the good relationship between them, Datong insisted on his help. Before the hearing commenced, Datong’s wife asked why the court was not the same as she saw before on TV. The tiny episode accounted for the difference between the judicial systems. Because Datong was in trouble, he turned to his friend for help, regardless of his professional field. Chinese weak legal consciousness was also criticized and satirized in this movie and Datong’s family became victims of culture shock.
   Although Gua Sha treatment is common and effective in China, we never tried to understand how it worked. We learned our culture from folk tales, mass media, and education. Culture is transmitted from generation to generation, so we never question the therapy. Everyone is a product of his own culture, it’s undoubted for American to have nothing idea about the treatment. But we can also find strong prejudice and ethnocentrism of America in the response to the case.
   The trial of this child abuse case could be regarded as the climax of this film. Datong’s family fights against the charge, which is an intense conflict between the Chinese and American cultures. Traditional medical treatment cannot be proved and admitted. They have no interest in proving why Gua Sha treatment is advisable but tried to prove how much the couple loves their son. The judgment and condemnation are just based on the scratch, the judge never showed a fair and sensible attitude to the medical treatment. Chinese classical book Journey to the West is considered from the negative perspective, even though the accuser knew it was wrong. The malicious and deliberated objection described American competition and materialism. The aim of the dispute is just for the victory in the court, regardless of the wicked ways. The prejudice and discrimination are two apparent obstacles in the intercultural communication. Moreover, the ethnocentrism of America was also perceivable. The judge and the accuser never showed justice to Datong’s rebuttal. Because of the ignorance of the treatment, they were very indifferent and pride to Datong’s statement. This uncooperative attitude made this event worse. It seems all of them are well-educated and civilized, but the communication problems repeatedly arose. Both of the parties held respective strong cultural background and different values, which have implemented enormous impact.
   Additionally, the stereotyping to Chinese or easterners are mentionable. When Datong said he hit his son to save his boss’ face, to make him feel better. The boss felt it was twisted and absurd. When Datong said it was a common sense to save his wife rather than the child, the female accuser said, your Orientals are barbarian. Stereotypes were a means of organizing our images into fixed and simple categories that we use to stand for the entire collection of people. In most distances, stereotypes are the products of limited, lazy, and misguided perceptions. In the movie, some Americans never delete their confirmation bias and tend to put Chinese to shame. Then, the failure in intercultural communication occurs.
   According to Hall’s high-context and low-context communication, the Asian mode of communication is often indirect and implicit, whereas western communication tends to be direct and explicit-that is, everything needs to be stated. Westerners are more prone to making very explicit statements and have little capability with nonverbal forms of expression. High-context cultures tend to be more aware of their surroundings and their environment and do not rely on verbal communication as their main information channel. According to the analysis of the movie, we can find the difference between high-context and low-context communication. At the beginning, Datong’s wife disliked the grandfather’s smoking, but she said nothing directly and opened the window. Certainly the grandfather understood it easily. On the contrary, Americans often get permission first. And if they want to show the objection, they spoke it out. But it’s not impolite and respectful to ask the elder not to do something. When Chinese show their anger, it is also implicit. Datong was very angry to his boss, because he has thought his boss would help him on this issue. Datong hoped his boss to support him, but the fact that the boss told everything straightforward, which was unfavorable to Datong. In Datong’s view, they were friends and it’s responsible for the boss to help him and he took the frankness of his boss as a kind of betrayal. He was unwilling to work there any more and planned to quit that job after no discussion with his boss. It’s normal to a Chinese man to show his anger and express their spilt relationship. From the perspective of the American, it has nothing to do with their friendship. It’s reasonable and lawful to tell the judge all the truth. They don’t show personal emotions in the business and persuaded Datong to work, which is a way to show his kindness and concern.
The ending of this movie is happy and warm. The boss understood Gua Sha treatment and Datong’s family gained reunion on the important western festival. No matter in East or West, family reunion and family love are enjoyable and happy. In the end, the grandfather educated and taught his son again. It was warm and moving because we can feel the father’s love; no matter he expressed his love explicitly or implicitly. The grandfather left America because he found it was troublesome and upset for a person like him to live in the Western culture. It was a failure for an elderly like him in intercultural communication, and it was a success for the young generation in America.
   The last episode in the movie was the boy’s learning mandarin, which was a strong contrast to the beginning of the movie, where the boy was educated to speak English to prepare for the competition of the future. No culture is more advanced than others and cultural diversity should be advocated and protected. Human brain is an open system and supposed to appreciate the diversity.
Finally, the name of the leading man in this movie, “Datong”, is also a Chinese Confucian classical term, which means great harmony. Obviously, the name was created with the implied meaning. “Datong” society is the perfect and ideal society in Confucianism, which conveyed the hope and wish of the movie producers. Although there are so many different countries, cultures, systems, races, etc, it’s a pursuit to build such kind of harmonious society without discrimination, prejudice, conflict, war…

  之前在网上看过这部影片的介绍一直很想看却从来没有合适的时间的去好好的看一遍，我很喜欢看电影，觉得看电影是一件会让人感觉到幸福的事情。
  《刮痧》是一部具有爱国情结的故事片，反映社会反映问题。无论是从编剧的大纲安排还是从导演的拍摄角度都能完完全全感受到一种浓郁的中国味道。故事是从一个远赴美国在美国跌爬滚打终于混出了名堂的一个中国家庭身上开始讲述的。因为小孙子肚子疼而爷爷初来乍到不懂得英文只好用刮痧这一中国传统中医疗法给孙子止痛，偶然孙子去医院看病脱了衣服却被医护人员看到了背上的青一片和紫一片以为是家庭暴力，便由此引发了矛盾开始了《刮痧》的全部故事内容。
  虽然是“刮痧”造成的法律纠纷但是从中又引出了很多因为异国、不同文化差异而造成的误会，我称之为误会，因为不同的文化不同的生活方式没有谁能够说到底是孰对孰错，只能说中国人有中国人的教育、生活方式，在美国有美国自己的生活态度，我们身在异国他乡就得按照人家的法律办事，我们所认为的顺理成章在那里都会变得“不可理喻”。
  还记得电影中有一段是讲两个孩子打架，中国爸爸非让自己的孩子给外国小孩道歉孩子不听话爸爸就打了孩子一巴掌，事后中国父亲解释说“我打孩子是因为给你（外国孩子的父亲）面子，尊重你！”“你打孩子是为了给我面子，尊重我？真是难以理解！”美国父亲惊诧的回答。
  在中国，我们可以理解这种为了给面子的“苦肉计”，我们从未怀疑这到底有没有必要，难道不去教训对方的面子就会颜面尽失，教训了之后对方的地位会大大增加吗？我想要不是这个影片估计是没有多少人会思考这个问题吧，因为我们从未怀疑这些“面子”问题有什么不对。
  影片里最让我觉得我们做的不好的还有关于儿童的保护，看到美国把每个儿童的利益放到最高点，孩子是不可以一个人被留在家里是不可以被轻视的，而我们中国因为家长的工作忙碌孩子一个人孤单的日子绝不在少数，而且作为孩子还必须要理解因为父母所做的一切都是因为我们。
  这种文化的差异，在世界逐渐一体化的今天我们变得开始向西方靠拢，我们的思考方式逐渐西化我们的文化逐渐西化就连电影，也不再是多少年前的中式电影风格，即使是《刮痧》为了获得更多的观众也采用了西式的外露型表达方式而不再是中国的含蓄美，所有的情感只有含蓄——这才是中国电影的标志。
  
  当然这些都不是这部电影的最大看点，我想所有的感性的观众在最后或多或少都为这种浓浓乡情、父与子之情感动的一塌糊涂。至少我坐在小小的教室里和同学们一样所有的泪水都一下子忍不住趟了出来。当看到在法庭上，美国律师说中国的西游记，说孙悟空是不折不扣的反面人物，我的心顿时激动了起来，我想如果此时我也在场肯定和大同（中国父亲）一样激动地想要和他打一架，太欺负人了！
  无知的美国人竟然为了赢一场官司不择手段的污蔑我们的文化，歧视我们的崇拜，太可憎了，可这就是现实，为了要回孩子只能忍气吞声，同样是中国人大同就选择的愤慨而简宁（中国母亲）选择的是忍气吞声。她为了孩子能回到身边为了孩子能上个更好的美国学校甚至会让孩子放弃母语而去说英语，即使跟自己的亲爷爷。她给自己的中国孩子灌输的全部都是西式教育我想她或许从未想过过有一天会让孩子回来，回到中国用在美国所学到的知识报答祖国为祖国的富强而贡献。
  我想他们只是中国在美华侨的缩影，为了获得更好的生活环境，我们无法要求他们再去做什么。
  最后为了能够孙子和爷爷再见上一面中国爸爸宁愿破坏规定从福利院带走了孩子，这一刻让人觉得心酸，爸爸和孩子被通缉成为了逃脱犯被警车拦截，爸爸陪着孩子跟警察周旋只为了孩子能够开心。孩子睡着了，爸爸才将他带回了福利院，轻轻的把他抱出来，然后被警察带走。那时，爸爸的眼爸爸的每一个举止投足都让人觉得那么心酸，回来吧放弃吧，在美国的生活实在太难过了。
  最后为了能让孩子回到家，爸爸和妈妈分居，爸爸成了虐待儿童的坏人辞了工作失去了家庭一个人躲在狭小的黑屋子里喝着闷酒。
  这年的冬天格外的冷。
圣诞节，爸爸答应跟孩子见面给他一个圣诞礼物，亲手画了个孙悟空样子做成圣诞娃娃，自己打扮成圣诞公公的样子想偷偷溜回家，没办法只好从墙外费力的一层一层爬到了九楼。那一刻所有人的心都跟着爸爸提心吊胆着，保佑着爸爸一定要爬上楼跟孩子团圆，一定。
  还好，一切的迷团都解开了，“刮痧”的中医疗法被解释清楚了，爸爸的罪名解除了，爸爸可以去见孩子了，可是爸爸并不知道还在一层层的向上爬着，爬着。
  结局当然很美好，全家人团聚相拥在一起，这年的圣诞节是这辈子最令人难忘的了。
  此时，在场的我们全部鼓起了掌声，我知道这掌声不仅仅因为他们全家团聚，而是为中国情、为父爱！
   
  

这是我第二次看这部片子。
我记得当年看这片子的时候我还尚小，最喜欢梁家辉带着孩子开车和警察跑高速的那段。
那时候我以为这是喜剧片，这么多年过去，我才发觉它的温情。
我实在看到片名的时候才想起它的，时间隔了太久，我都记不得那些情节，只记得被踩坏的孙悟空和爬窗子的圣诞老人。
于是，我又一点一点地回忆起来。
老实说，我一开始并没有怎么觉得这片子很吸引人；甚至，我一度抱怨着谁谁谁的演技太差而谁谁谁表演不尽如人意。
但是我呢，总是因为一句话就会被轻而易举地打动。
简宁说“Because he's Chinese.”。然后镜头切到许大同扶着父亲小心翼翼上楼的画面。我始终觉得那是无比美好的画面，在昏黄的灯光下，青年和老年的身影交错在一起，被拉长的镜头舒缓而伤感，隐藏在平静之下的波涛汹涌在这瞬间都变得微不足道。
那就是父子。
所以之后我看到许大同背着给丹尼斯的孙悟空要爬上九楼的时候，这种情绪便更加地激烈了起来。
我不想说所谓的文化差异所谓的民族精神，我也不想分析那些站在楼下围观的路人都纷纷有着怎样的心理。
我是只看我想看到的东西。
那是无论怎样都不会被埋没的天经地义理所当然的感情，不要求回报，只有心甘情愿地付出。那是父母和孩子之间不可违背的羁绊。没有理由也不需要证据。
我记得爷爷写给许大同的信，说“吾儿勿念”。
普天下的父亲皆是如此。